Monday, June 6, 2011

It's No Big Deal

Theme for June: Unity
Scripture Verse:
"...for he (satan) is a liar and the father of lies." John 8:44c
Mom's Musing:
"Go ahead. Do it. It's not a big deal. No one will find out. It's my life." Words whispered into our ears, into our children's ears. The enemy's lies come fast and furious. Whatever the temptation, the result of giving in is always the same. Guilt is followed by a cover-up. Fear of being discovered looms. Shame for the action results. A lie is born and it quickly reproduces. Deception delivers relationship division. The person lied to is hurt. The liar feels discomfort around the person he's deceived.  To regain unity the injured party's pride needs to be sacrificed and  bravery is required from the deceiver. Dealing with relational disunity should occur as quickly as possible. The more time goes by the bigger the relational chasm. A consequence for the lie also needs to be put into place.
Parenting Tip: When you discover your tween or teen has lied, reveal what you know. Keep calm even if the child is not. Show unconditional love and grace. (Remember when you deceived your parents at that age.)  Ask how the issue can be remedied and how the relationship can be repaired. (Your child will have some good ideas.) Start the process of rebuilding trust by having a system where your child is accountable for his words and whereabouts. Train your young person to recognize the enemy's words of persuasion. Give your child a response to those lies, "God knows."

1 comment: