When you get together with your friends, have you noticed that most parents have kids who have experienced some sort of challenge or struggle?
The goal isn’t shooting for perfection in your child or in yourself. My mom pal, , captures this thought by saying,
What a FREEING concept!
I wrote a guest blog post for of Hearts at Home. In the article, I mentioned how the spills or accidents in life are an opportunity. They are moments where parents can model grace and humility. Our kids watch and learn how we respond to the times they fall short in behavior or attitude.
So what is success, if the standard isn’t performing with perfection, completing a project perfectly, or meeting a goal?
Here are the top ten ways (plus one more) imperfection helps kids…and parents… thrive during times of strife or failure:
1. Imperfection points out it is not the end of the world when something doesn’t turn out as planned.
2. Imperfection increases the awareness we can’t do it all. We all must pick and choose what is important and to put the focus and emphasis on those items.
3. Imperfection teaches our kids that asking for and accepting help is a good thing.
4. Imperfection in ourselves increases our understanding of another’s short comings.
5. . Imperfection gives children the opportunity to choose peace over anger.
6. Every day of our lives, we can learn something new.
7. Imperfection is the best way to build the tenacity muscle.
8. Imperfection enables kids to extend grace to another when he or she is less than perfect.
9. Imperfection allows children become practiced in the action of forgiving themselves when they mess up.
10. Imperfect teaches us not to take ourselves too seriously.
Perfectionism stirs the pot of pride. It produces a critical and judgmental spirit. It can be barrier to healthy relationships.
So…knowing being perfect isn’t the goal, we instead teach our kids to do their best, ask for help when needed, offer assistance to others, and then when the mistakes inevitably seep into the fray to show grace, peace, and forgiveness.