It is midway through the summer. How are you doing? Are your kids beginning to pick at each other? Do you feel a little frustrated with your kids’ bickering? Is their relationship what you had hoped? Do you want your kids to best buds when they grow up? Of course! Most parents do.
But here's the kicker...not all moms and dads are relationship builders- some act more like relationship busters.
Honestly examine your building or busting with these five questions:
1. Do you your children? “Why aren’t you responsible like Brandon? Why don’t you behave like Emma? Your brother used the big potty when he was three.”
2. Do you allow ? “If there isn’t blood, work it out yourselves.”
3. Do you foster ? “I bet you could run even faster than Sam if you practiced.”
4. Do you one over the other? “Cayden and I have a lot in common. We just click.”
5. Do you one over the other? “Caitlin is having a bad day, she can’t help it that she behaved badly.”
If you answered yes to any of the questions above, you can still change your ways. Here are some approaches:
1. “You have talents, just as your brother has unique and special talents.”
2. Give the kids tools to Don’t allow them to fight dirty (name calling, physical actions)
3. “You can do better if you practice. I can help you come up with a plan to improve."
4. Find a way to ith all your kids.
5. Be fair in treatment.
So…. how can a mom encourage her children to genuinely like each other? How can she build relationships and connections between siblings? She can for kids to enjoy each other. Have the activities be viewed as special, doing things that are not normally done. Even with summer part way over with here are ten ways to wrap up your vacation time together on a good note.
A slumber party in a common area.
An indoor picnic.
A lemonade stand.
Cook a meal, bake cookies.
Join forces to help out another. (pick weeds or mow an elderly neighbor’s yard)
Do a surprise act of kindness for a brother or sister. (make a bed, do a chore)
(If you are out with one child and stop at DQ, think of the one at home and bring him a treat-let the sibling be the giver.)
Designate a “Special Person” during dinner. Go around the table, stating PUT- UPS or affirmations for that individual.
Before bedtime have prayer time.
Make a scrapbooks of shared activities.
Be the coach and not the referee this summer and beyond. Guide and encourage your kids to be sibling friends. When you act as a you will have the great pleasure of watching your young adults seek opportunities to enjoy one another’s company.